Transience vc. Disposibility

Wed, 22 Apr 2026 00:34:19 GMT

Transience vs. Disposability

Written by Sita Ester | 22 April 2026

When, in life, is something transient, and when is it disposable?

When do we know that something is ready to be let go of, to shift, to change - or that we are running from the invitation to go deeper?

This question is a tough nut to crack, and one that is very alive in my world.

Sometimes, things have run their course: Relationships, jobs, experiences, processes, ways of being. Sometimes death, decay and change is inevitable - and necessary - and things are transient: like the changing of the seasons and the shifting phases of the moon, or the caterpillar transforming in its cocoon.

But when are we (mis)using the idea of transience as a way to dispose of something that in fact has potential to grow into something beautiful, if we stay?

Or when are we avoiding the actual decay in itself, in order to not have to face the pain of loss?

The caterpillar has to stay, and go through its decay in order to become a beautiful butterfly. But is it also so that he could choose not to, and remain a caterpillar for the rest of its life, and never live the beautiful life a butterfly can have?

I guess the caterpillar has no choice - it is its nature to transform.

But as humans, do we have a choice? And do we sometimes mistake, or try to (consciously or unconsciously) manipulate the natural transience of things?

To avoid or delay a transformation by refusing to let go? Or.. to see things quickly as disposable and say: "oh well, I guess it wasn't meant to be" as a way to avoid a possibly painful but most likely very rewarding process of transformation and deepening into ourselves (and whatever or whomever we are relating to) as we stay and face the situation?

And how do we know the difference?

When is something truly transient, and when are we disposing of something that actually needed more time, space and presence to flourish?

I don't know the answer. But I feel the truth lies within our truest inner landscapes.

When we look at the natural world, it transforms and changes all the time: impermanence is the only unchanging thing, and nature's innate intelligence doesn't overthink things - they just happen, whatever the consequences - and it will bear those consequences, as it has no choice.

Do we as humans have a choice — or just the illusion of it? Do we actually have the power to manipulate the natural way of things, or do we simply want to believe we do?

Perhaps before we answer the question of whether we are allowing transience or sucumbing to premature disposability, we have to ask ourselves: from which energy are we moving? Are we letting go from fear, or truth? Are we staying from love, or fear of loss?

When we feel ourselves trapped in that space of not knowing - to stay, to go, to fight for or let go of - can we surrender and rest our minds, and transport ourselves into the caterpillars cocoon?

Can we become it, for just a moment?

Can we feel what is being asked of us here?

Not with our ever questioning minds, but with our bodies, with our hearts?

Can we tap into that innate intelligence that runs through us? And let ourselves be carried by its wisdom?

Close your eyes, and go there now.

Feel the wisdom of the natural order of things seep through your skin and into your heart.

Then, when you rest there, how do you feel?

Do you wish to stay, or do you need to let go?

What does your body already know?

(Written by a human)

Tears, Grief & Letting Go

duda-wsm@mijndomein.nl — Mon, 16 Sep 2024 07:07:12 GMT

Tears, Grief & Letting Go

Written by: Sita ter Horst | 16 september 2024

I have been on the other side of the world now for five months. And I am here to stay.

I am encountering more than I could ever have imagined and I am grateful for it.. But gosh, what a ride!

I am deeply letting go on many levels and in many ways, of people, places, ways of being and in a way - roots - whilst also growing new ones at the same time.

The tears flow freely in grief and yet thankfulness for all that I am letting go of in Europe right now..

All the beautiful connections, the beautiful beings that I cherish, out of reach physically, but not out of heart.

Even though I know that the bestest of friends and dearest of connections will stay - long elaborate voice messages, calls, photos and videos are shared with those ones who stay close to my heart - and even though the love is just as limitless and infinite now that I find myself all those thousands of kilometres away, I still feel the aching difference between having them close in physicality.

And not only that - but a whole part of my life that I had set up in Europe - the community and network, both in Portugal as in the Netherlands that I had grown to fully feel at home in, is now so far away, and it is dawning on me how much I had created there over the years.

In my home here I find solace, with my partner, my sister and brother in law and my niece closeby.

Yet my heart also aches for that which I left. And it is time to give it space, to allow the tears and to grieve.

Letting go and grieving for what we leave behind, is an important part of being able to fully step into a new cycle of creation and building. But it isn't linear either. Every wave is a new one that crashes on the shore - either with intense force, or a soft rumble - followed by still waters in between in which we get to rest, root down, ground and build on foundations.

Grieving goes in between life, through life - it is part of life. And at times, it asks for attention to be fully seen in all her glory, and at other times she's just there silently in the background, humming and being.

I don't recall where I read it or if someone shared this with me, but I can fully agree that:
Grief is love in a different form.

When we grieve for someone or something we have lost, we are actually tapping into the unconditional and infinite love that we hold for it, him or her.

Grief is a portal to love.

So today, I want to say thank you to grief.

May she be my ally, my portal to greater love and stronger foundations than ever before.

I let the tears flow as I let go, and prepare myself to share more yummyness and wonder in what other stirrings I will encounter in the upcoming while.

So.. Stay tuned for more dear ones!

and always feel free to post your comments,
personal shares or stirrings below - I'd love to hear from you!

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